Hello Everyone – Life After Caring …

February 21st, 2025

As I told you in last week’s blog Mum has passed away and it has been two weeks since this has happened.
I am funeral planning which is including the content and order of service for Mum’s funeral which is now the 14th March, it seems a long time since she passed but unfortunately the Crematorium is booked up until then.
I do count myself lucky as I have the same Funeral Directors and Celebrant as we had for Dad.  I know them, they are brilliant professionals, sensitive and compassionate, we are in good hands.
I am looking at music, flowers for the coffin (yellow roses which were my Mum’s favourite), I am starting to write my Mum’s eulogy and coordinating it all as I promised to her a few years back.  I know her so well so I am saying no to the odd suggestion from my family only because my Mum would hate it.
One thing has become apparent already to me is having my weekends back fully.  I have been mostly setting off every Saturday for the last 5 years.  It started when I would go over and do shopping and catch up with both my parents when I realised my parents were older, frail and just needed a bit more input.
Then Mum had her stroke and was hospitalised then into a nursing home, I would pick up my Dad and drive together and visit Mum, then back again doing my Dad’s shopping.
Dad passed away and I would just go directly to Mum’s or on occasion pick my sister up, do Mum’s shopping and then spend time making her laugh and just being there, do not get me wrong she could be infuriating at times but I would give anything to be doing a visit tomorrow.
The thing I cannot get my head round at the moment is my new free time on a Saturday, I have my weekends back and for myself, partner, dogs basically my immediate family.  It feels strange and I seem to have so much more time. What I cannot do anymore is have a laugh with my Mum about how visit her and get out of the housework, leaving my partner to do it.  We used to laugh so much about this and she did feel for Phil but we agreed it is what she would do.
This is a huge change and I wanted to discuss how we adjust after our caring role and how there is a life after caring.
I have mentioned it before that we run a workshop on how to prepare for a life ending, the plans you need to put into place, how to chat and discuss sensitive issues with your loved ones, advanced care planning, funeral planning, the new death certification process, self care and your next steps.
If you want to sign up for April’s workshop please contact wellbeing@ccth.org.uk 

 Look after yourselves and if you need any help with your wellbeing activities please get in touch with the wonderful Christine wellbeing@ccth.org.uk

Don’t be shy and come and drop in to one of our activities – check out the calendar to see what is on    https://ccth.org.uk/health-wellbeing/events-activities/


March 8th 2025 is International Women’s Day

I would like to add a carers story to highlight this in our March newsletter.

I am looking for a Bengali Female Carer who would be interested in being interviewed or writing their story about their caring role.

If this sounds good to you then please email me tony@ccth.org.uk 

I will give you a ring and we can chat about what you want to talk about.  Let’s celebrate women, unpaid carers and the important role women have.


Free drama group for Muslim adults at the Brady Arts & Community Centre, every Monday 3:00pm-5:00pm, until May 9th 2025. 

Outside Edge Theatre Company
Brady Arts Centre
192-196 Hanbury Street,
London, E1 5HU
0207 371 8020
www.outsideedge.org


The 2025-2026 tax year starts on 6th April 2025. This means that all residents will receive the Council Tax bill for the year 2025-2026 next month.

As majority of people cannot pay the whole in Lump sum, the Council Tax payment is spread over 12 months starting April 2025.

The bill is often correct as it takes the Council Tax Benefit into account.

 

It is important to start the payment in April and set up direct payment so that you do not forget to pay.

If you miss the monthly payments, then the Council will ask you to pay the whole bill in one go.  If you keep missing the payments, then you will receive summons with additional cost of at least £90.

If you think the bill is wrong, please make the payment first and enquire with the Council Tax Team or contact us. In this way, you will not fall into Council Tax arrears.


Click link below for new  newsletter and see what is on with their monthly online carers group

Queer Carers Newsletter


Next Week’s Activities – check out https://ccth.org.uk/health-wellbeing/events-activities/

Next Shared Reading  – Monday’s from 11.15am to 12.15pm 

Shared reading is a popular group where carers are read a story and they then have the chance to debate the characters, storylines and how the story makes them feel.  So, come along and have a little mental respite.

Don’t for get Sharron is rambling for better mental health as mentioned last week this years Mental Health Awareness is movement as it has been proven that exercise, walking and as we know being with others improves wellbeing so, either come for the shared reading and carry on afterwards and ramble or just join the ramble at 12.30pm and this all takes place at the Carers Centre and off you go.

Walking & Talking Group – Monday’s 12.30pm to 2pm

Why not come and have a walk in Tower Hamlets with other carers and exercise, lower your blood pressure, connect with people, have fun, and have some mental respite from your caring role. We Meet outside the centre, and we go off in a different direction each session.

Arts, Crafts & Conversation – every Thursday from 11am to 1pm

Come and learn a new craft like sewing, knitting and much much more but a great part of the experience is meeting other carers where you can have a good long natter


Online, Easy Read Survey for Learning Disability

Are you a carer of someone with a learning disability?

We have created an easy-read survey for people with lived experience to engage with. It consists of:

  1. A briefing and explanation for carers and support networks.
  2. An easy-read version of our needs assessment
  3. An easy-read version of the survey

Please click this online version to fill in, which will automatically send the responses back – https://pdf.ac/3j2431


WaterHelp

We want to support our customers who are struggling to pay their bills.

Our WaterHelp scheme can help if your water bill is a large proportion of your household income. This may be due to having a high water bill due to a large family, or that you are on a low income.

Eligibility for WaterHelp

If your bill is more than 5% of your net income, you may be eligible for Water Help. This is also dependent on the number of occupants at the property.

We currently offer a 50% discount on your bill if you qualify. This amount may change in the future. In order to qualify, we’ll need to check your details and verify your income.

Applying for WaterHelp

WaterHelp | Account and billing | Help | Thames Water


Hospital Volunteers – big thanks to A & J

If you need support when you are caring for someone at the Royal London Hospital then look out for our Kiosk on a Monday and Friday


Join us for our first Swap and Repair event of 2025

Come along to find some second-hand treasures, pass on unwanted clothes or books, learn to repair clothing and get your bike looked over by a mechanic.

This event will take place at the Town Hall (160 Whitechapel Road, London, E11BJ) on Sunday 9 March from 10.30am to 2pm.

Swap and Repair


Swim well with Be Well

Be Well, the council’s leisure service, provides free swimming for women and girls aged over 16, and for all residents over 55.  However, we recognise that not everyone is confident in the water, especially women.

That’s why we’re offering free swim clinics for women during female-only swim sessions. These are not structured swimming lessons.

See more >


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What is a hate crime?

Hate crime is any criminal offence where anyone believes the victim has been targeted because of their:

  • disability
  • race or ethnic identity
  • religion/belief
  • gender or gender identity
  • sexual orientation
  • age
  • immigration status or nationality
  • or any other actual or perceived difference.

Hate crime behaviours can include

  • physical attacks – pushing and shoving to serious assaults
  • verbal abuse – using derogatory or insulting words
  • threatening behaviour, bullying and intimidation
  • damage to property – including offensive graffiti
  • harassment
  • malicious communications – threatening or offensive mail, texts or emails
  • damage to property and violence
  • hate can also be directed at whole communities – for example, vandalism of places of worship, or offensive graffiti in public places.

Hate incidents

Are incidents that do not constitute a criminal offence but cause alarm, distress or harassment where anyone believes the victim has been targeted because of their race/ethnicity, religion/belief, gender/gender identity, disability, age, sexual orientation or any other actual or perceived difference.

For more information and how to report hate crimes visit www.towerhamlets.gov.uk/hatecrime

Our Hate Crime Manual with a Directory of support services is available via this link  Tower Hamlets Hate Crime Manual.

Remember an attack on one section of our community is an attack on us all.


Domestic Abuse Number

Refuge: 24 hours, 7 days a week – Tel: 0808 2000 247


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Food Banks Information

What you need to know

With the cost of living crisis affecting communities nationwide, the London Borough of Tower Hamlets have shared information on accessing your local FOOD Stores and tips on managing your food bills.

Tower Hamlets FOOD Stores

A number of FOOD stores have been set up across the borough, supporting those who are finding it difficult to afford enough food for themselves or their families.

At these FOOD stores, you are able to pick up food valued at £25-£35 in exchange for a £3.50 membership fee. At the same time, support is provided in other areas that you might need help with. This includes help with issues around

  • housing
  • benefits access
  • employment and more.

To find out more or to become a member email thefoodstore@towerhamlets.gov.uk with your name, address, postcode, date of birth and contact number.

Foodbanks

There are a number of food aid organisations available to help you in Tower Hamlets if you are struggling to get food for yourself or your family. Scroll down to see where your closest branch is located. Different food aid services will offer different support.

Types

  • Open Access – A food bank that anyone can go to for food.
  • Limited Access/referral only – A Food bank that needs someone to refer you into the service. Please contact the organisation for more details.
  • School food provision – A food bank or food aid service that specifically works with students and parents who attend the school.
  • Hot meals service/Hostel – Provides hot meals or pre-made goods to residents.

Underwood Road Foodbank – (Open Access)

Opening times: Thursday and Friday, 9am – 3pm

St Anne’s Catholic Church, E1 5AW

Contact: 020 7247 7833 or email underwoodroad@rcdow.org.uk from Tuesday to Friday (9am – 3pm)

Ensign Youth Club – (Open Access)

Opening times: Friday 10am – 1pm

Wellclose Sq, E1 8HY

Contact: info@ensign.org.uk

Hague Primary School

Opening times: Monday – Friday 8.40am – 3.40pm

Hague primary school, E2 0BP and E1 5RE

For more information please ask at the school office.

Stewart Headlam Primary School

Opening times: Monday – Friday 8.40am – 3.40pm

Tapp St, London, E1 5RE

For more information please ask at the school office.

Wellington Primary School – Food bank (limited access/by referral only)

School food provision (Pupils and families only)

Opening times: Tuesday 2 – 3pm

Wellington Way, Bow, E3 4NE

Contact: admin@wellington.towerhamlets.sch.uk

St Elizabeth Pop Up Kitchen – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: 3.40 – 5pm

St Elizabeth Primary School, entrance on Waterloo Gardens, E2 9JY

For more information please visit St Elizabeth School website / Caritas Twitter page.

Bygrove School – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: Monday – Friday (Term Time Only)

Bygrove street, E14 6DN

For more information please visit the Bygrove School website.

Langdon Park School – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: Monday – Friday 8am – 4pm

Bright Street, London, E14 0RZ

For more information please ask at the school office.

Dorset Community Food Hub – (Open Access – Hot meals service)

Opening times: Thursday

Ground floor, former Dorset library, E2 8QX

For more information please visit the Dorset Community website.

Olga Primary School Foodbank – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: Friday 3.20 – 3.45pm

Olga Primary School, E3 5DN

Contact: 020 8981 7127

Edward Gibbons House – (Hostel)

Opening times: 24 hours

1 Parmiter St, E2 9NG

For more information please visit Providence Row website.

Globe Primary School – (Open Access)

Opening times: Friday 12 – 3.15pm

Globe Primary School, E2 0JH

For more information please visit Globe Primary School website.

Food for Aldgate – (Limited access/by referral only)

Opening times: Friday 1 – 3pm

Tonybee Hall, 28 Commercial Street, London, E1 6AB

Contact: Paul.wilson@eastendhomes.net or Twitter @FoodForAldgate.

Womens Inclusive Team – (Limited access/by referral only)

Opening times: Appointment provided after referral

Mayfield House 202 Cambridge Heath Road, E2 9LJ

Contact: 07415 372 664 or email shakilaa@wit.org.uk.

William Davis Food Bank – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: Friday 2 – 3pm

William Davis School, E2 6ET

Contact: 020 7739 1511

Bow Food Bank – (Open Access)

Opening times: Monday 8am – 12.30pm

Bromley by Bow Centre, St Leonard’s Street, E3 3BT

For more information please visit the Bow Food Bank website.

Bethnal Green Foodbank – (Open Access)

Opening times: Wednesday 2 – 7pm

Raines Foundations School, Approach road, E2 9LY

For more information please visit Bow Food Bank website.

Bow Muslim Cultural Centre – (Open Access)

Opening times: Friday 11am – 3pm

246 Bow Road London, E3 3AP

Contact: info@bowcentralmosque.co.uk

SACC Food Bank – (Limited access/by referral only)

Opening times: Thursday and Friday 10am – 3pm

St Anne’s Catholic Church, E1 5AW

Contact: braziliancp@rcdow.org.uk or 020 7247 7833.

Referrals can be discussed by email or contact number.


A carers guide to home fire safety

A new video resource has been launched on the London Fire Brigade website to help carers learn how to keep people that receive care safe from fire.

Sadly, around one third of those here who die or are severely injured by fire are in receipt of some form of care or support. If you are a formal (domiciliary care worker, support worker or clinician) or informal carer (family member, friend or neighbour) and are caring for someone in their own home, this new resource will help you identify fire risks and show you what you can do to reduce them. There is also more information available on the website around fire safety and prevention.

Watch the video >


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WALKING ALONE? REMEMBER THESE 10 TIPS

1) Plan Your Route

Make sure you plan your route ahead of time. If you are walking in an area you are not familiar with, this can help keep you from getting lost. You will be able to walk with confidence. If you do get lost, don’t wander aimlessly, find a gas station, supermarket, or fast-food restaurant where you can ask for directions.

2) Make Sure Someone Else Knows Your Plans

Don’t go out when it is dark without telling someone, even if you are just taking the dogs out for a walk around your neighbourhood or walking home from a friend’s house nearby. It may seem paranoid, but in fact, knowing someone knows where you are can be reassuring and help you feel safe. If you fall and hurt yourself or run into trouble, and someone knows where you are, they can send help if you don’t arrive at your destination on time.

3) Always Carry Your Phone with You

Always carry your phone, but not for music or to make social calls as your walk. Your phone can be a lifeline if you see something suspicious or worse if something happens to you. Download a safety app on your phone, so you’ll be able to discreetly alert the authorities if you feel threatened or see something suspicious.

4) Avoid Suspicious People and Areas

Areas that are dark, deserted, or out-of-the-way, such as an alley or a parking lot, can be riskier than a well-lit area full of people. Stick to busy, lighted paths, to minimize the risks. Also, walk mainly in familiar places where you are known. That way, if you feel like a suspicious person is following you, you can always duck into a store you know or knock on a neighbour’s door. Avoid empty streets and pathways with thick shrubbery.

5) Keep Your Hands Free

Except for a flashlight and one of the items discussed below, keep your hands free. If you are carrying anything, put it all in one bag or backpack. This will make it easier for you to react if you notice someone following you. In a dangerous situation, carrying too many bags can keep you from moving as quickly as you can if your hands are free or if you only have one bag.

6) Carry a Non-Violent Deterrent

In addition to a flashlight,  A whistle will help you alert others and call them to aid you if something is wrong. The loud noise may put off attackers, and they’ll move on to find someone else. Mace or pepper spray can give you enough time to evade a potential attacker, and in a pinch, a flashlight can be used as a weapon. Make sure you know how to use the mace or pepper spray to get its full effect.

7) Wear Reflective Clothing to Prevent Accidents

When it comes to personal safety, it’s not just about suspicious people. Areas with low visibility can be prone to accidents. Reflective clothing allows bikers and cars to see you as you walk along. A flashlight or headlight can also help drivers see you if there are dark stretches of road on your route.

8) Take a Self-Defence Class

When fighting off something as an assault, the element of surprise can work in your favour. If you regularly walk alone, take a self-defence class. You don’t have to become a black belt. In fact, it’s probably better to learn something like Krav Maga, which has been popular for self-defence. The idea is to disable your attacker enough for you to get to safety, and a class focused on self-defence will help give you those survival skills.

9) Remove Any Distractions

Keep your phone in your hand in case you need to hit the panic button on your safety app, but don’t let it distract you. When walking alone at night for exercise, music can be motivating and energizing but also distracting. You may not hear someone driving or walking up behind you. Avoid wearing headphones or talking on your phone as you walk.

10) Trust Your Gut

When walking alone at night, trust your gut. If you feel like an area or situation may be dangerous, don’t wait around to find out. Stop and scan your surroundings if you think someone is following you. If you are being followed, walk as quickly as you can to a well-lit public place. You can wait until you feel safe, or call a friend, a taxi, or an Uber to help you get safely get home at night.

Following these personal safety tips will help keep you stay safe when walking alone. Always be aware of where you are and alert to suspicious activity.