Hello Everyone – Funeral Planning …

March 7th, 2025

So, today I have managed to plan, pay and organise all the various aspects of a funeral.
This is the second time I have done this as I had to do this two years ago when Dad passed away but this time it has been different.
Quite rightly as each funeral should reflect the person who has passed, it really is  person centred event and it should mark the individuality of someone and their life.
Yes, my Mum and Dad were married for 59 years but they really were two different people as well as growing old together and becoming in sync, they had a lot of differences, tastes, likes and dislikes.
It cannot stress enough the importance of having a discussion about what loved ones want do they want to be buried or cremated?  Making sure the funeral reflects the person’s faith, ideals and gives a good sense of who they were and what impact they had on their family, friends and other loved ones.  And how will this be paid for as when someone passes you need to make the organisation as hassle free as possible.
When Dad died it was sudden and I had to get a loan to pay for the funeral but we did him proud and he had a military funeral, beautifully managed by the The Royal British Legion, as Dad was in the army for over 20 years, he had a befriender supplied by them when Mum went into the care home which Dad really appreciated having an adult he could talk to who had many things in common with him.
When I had to sell Mum’s house after Dad had passed as I was instructed to do by the Council to pay for Mum’s care I put some money away for Mum’s funeral which has made things so much easier and if possible do keep money aside, maybe set up a funeral plan, check out Down to Earth https://quakersocialaction.org.uk/we-can-help/helping-funerals/down-earth. They help and can advised on all faiths and funerals because if you are on benefits you can a grant towards funerals but it may not pay for it all.
So, with Mum I want her funeral to reflect her and how do you condense a life into 40 minutes?  Well, foremost Mum was a Mum and family was everything to her, she was adopted and I believe that this influenced her throughout her life.  When we lived in Germany and she was an army wife she used to take in children, short term fostering for children who may need a temporary home if there was domestic violence, bereavement or marriage breakdowns  within their families.  Sometimes I wake to find a temporary brother or sister, they were bathed and have a pair of my pyjamas on, fed, loved and off they went back to their families when it was deemed appropriate.
That was who Mum was and so my funeral planning is this Friendship, Grandma and Mum – I want to tell the story of this remarkable woman who was kind, loving, challenging and loyal.
So, make sure you start having conversations with your loved ones, they do not need to be ghoulish but adult wanting to know and do your best, we in this country are not that good about talking of death and so we run around panicking about what people want and I think we should just have a conversation, write some notes, do not make it a big deal and everybody involved can relax.
Next week on Friday 14th will be my Mum’s funeral so there will not a be a blog but look after yourselves, be kind, be loyal and be challenging as it makes for an interesting world,  believe me.

Love you Mum xx

No Walking & Talking Group on Monday 10th but back the following Monday

Look after yourselves and if you need any help with your wellbeing activities please get in touch with the wonderful Christine wellbeing@ccth.org.uk

Don’t be shy and come and drop in to one of our activities – check out the calendar to see what is on    https://ccth.org.uk/health-wellbeing/events-activities/



Carers Support Coordinator – Mental Health

Project Overview: 

The Barnsley Street Project is a Community Mental Health Pilot aimed at delivering continuous, person-centred mental health care to underserved populations in PCN1 (Bethnal Green). This initiative is a collaborative effort between East London Foundation Trust (ELFT), Tower Hamlets Mental Health Alliance (THMHA), and the Look Ahead Housing Association. Driven by the voice of lived experience, the project is designed to address the systemic gaps in mental health services, particularly for marginalised communities.

You can find the role here https://www.charityjob.co.uk/jobs/carers-centre-tower-hamlets/carers-support-coordinator/1008417?jobTitle=view&tsId=8


email wellbeing@ccth.org.uk to reserve your place 


International Women’s Day is taking place on Saturday 8 March. The annual event aims to tackle the barriers to gender equality.

To mark the day, Be Well is offering a range of fitness classes and activities across its centres, including body conditioning, legs, bums and tums, swim for women, aqua aerobics, step aerobics, and box fit. The full programme can be found on the Be Well website.

Young Tower Hamlets has organised lots of activities, including International Women’s Day themed quizzes, gender equality workshops, cartoon making arts and crafts session, and an exciting boxing session with boxing champion Ruqsana. Find out more about how to get involved on the Young Tower Hamlets website.

International Women’s Day 2025


Extended hours at Whitechapel Sports Centre 

In time for Lent and Ramadan and listening to your feedback, Be Well is extending the opening times for the gym and sports hall at Whitechapel Sports Centre.

Starting now, it will be open weekdays (Monday-Friday) until 11pm, with discounted badminton available from 9pm, until the end of May.

Whether you’re fitting in a late-night gym session or a game after work ,Be Well is here to support your health and wellbeing journey.

Extended hours at Whitechapel Sports Centre – Be Well in Tower Hamlets


SEN Family swimming sessions launch 

Special Educational Needs (SEN) family swimming sessions are now available at Tiller Leisure Centre Saturdays and Sundays from 12noon to 12.45pm and 1pm to 1.45pm.

With lots of swimming toys and floats to play with and accessible facilities on site, these sessions are aimed at families with children up to 16 years of age who have additional needs.

Parking available at weekends. Booking required.

Family SEN Swimming sessions – Be Well in Tower Hamlets


The 2025-2026 tax year starts on 6th April 2025. This means that all residents will receive the Council Tax bill for the year 2025-2026 next month.

As majority of people cannot pay the whole in Lump sum, the Council Tax payment is spread over 12 months starting April 2025.

The bill is often correct as it takes the Council Tax Benefit into account.

 

It is important to start the payment in April and set up direct payment so that you do not forget to pay.

If you miss the monthly payments, then the Council will ask you to pay the whole bill in one go.  If you keep missing the payments, then you will receive summons with additional cost of at least £90.

If you think the bill is wrong, please make the payment first and enquire with the Council Tax Team or contact us. In this way, you will not fall into Council Tax arrears.


Next Week’s Activities – check out https://ccth.org.uk/health-wellbeing/events-activities/

Next Shared Reading  – Monday’s from 11.15am to 12.15pm 

Shared reading is a popular group where carers are read a story and they then have the chance to debate the characters, storylines and how the story makes them feel.  So, come along and have a little mental respite.

Don’t for get Sharron is rambling for better mental health as mentioned last week this years Mental Health Awareness is movement as it has been proven that exercise, walking and as we know being with others improves wellbeing so, either come for the shared reading and carry on afterwards and ramble or just join the ramble at 12.30pm and this all takes place at the Carers Centre and off you go.

Walking & Talking Group – Monday’s 12.30pm to 2pm

Why not come and have a walk in Tower Hamlets with other carers and exercise, lower your blood pressure, connect with people, have fun, and have some mental respite from your caring role. We Meet outside the centre, and we go off in a different direction each session.

Arts, Crafts & Conversation – every Thursday from 11am to 1pm

Come and learn a new craft like sewing, knitting and much much more but a great part of the experience is meeting other carers where you can have a good long natter


Join us for our first Swap and Repair event of 2025

Come along to find some second-hand treasures, pass on unwanted clothes or books, learn to repair clothing, and get your bike looked over by a mechanic.

This event will take place at the Town Hall (160 Whitechapel Road, London, E1 1BJ) on Sunday 9 March from 10.30am to 2pm.

Swap and Repair


Online, Easy Read Survey for Learning Disability

Are you a carer of someone with a learning disability?

We have created an easy-read survey for people with lived experience to engage with. It consists of:

  1. A briefing and explanation for carers and support networks.
  2. An easy-read version of our needs assessment
  3. An easy-read version of the survey

Please click this online version to fill in, which will automatically send the responses back – https://pdf.ac/3j2431


Don’t forget our fortnightly Garden Club at Canary Roof Gardens

We want more carers to join the group so why not take some time each month to get fresh air, connection with other carers, be more active and most of all have some fun.

email wellbeing@ccth.org.uk to book your place


Swim well with Be Well

Be Well, the council’s leisure service, provides free swimming for women and girls aged over 16, and for all residents over 55.  However, we recognise that not everyone is confident in the water, especially women.

That’s why we’re offering free swim clinics for women during female-only swim sessions. These are not structured swimming lessons.

See more >


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What is a hate crime?

Hate crime is any criminal offence where anyone believes the victim has been targeted because of their:

  • disability
  • race or ethnic identity
  • religion/belief
  • gender or gender identity
  • sexual orientation
  • age
  • immigration status or nationality
  • or any other actual or perceived difference.

Hate crime behaviours can include

  • physical attacks – pushing and shoving to serious assaults
  • verbal abuse – using derogatory or insulting words
  • threatening behaviour, bullying and intimidation
  • damage to property – including offensive graffiti
  • harassment
  • malicious communications – threatening or offensive mail, texts or emails
  • damage to property and violence
  • hate can also be directed at whole communities – for example, vandalism of places of worship, or offensive graffiti in public places.

Hate incidents

Are incidents that do not constitute a criminal offence but cause alarm, distress or harassment where anyone believes the victim has been targeted because of their race/ethnicity, religion/belief, gender/gender identity, disability, age, sexual orientation or any other actual or perceived difference.

For more information and how to report hate crimes visit www.towerhamlets.gov.uk/hatecrime

Our Hate Crime Manual with a Directory of support services is available via this link  Tower Hamlets Hate Crime Manual.

Remember an attack on one section of our community is an attack on us all.


Domestic Abuse Number

Refuge: 24 hours, 7 days a week – Tel: 0808 2000 247


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Food Banks Information

What you need to know

With the cost of living crisis affecting communities nationwide, the London Borough of Tower Hamlets have shared information on accessing your local FOOD Stores and tips on managing your food bills.

Tower Hamlets FOOD Stores

A number of FOOD stores have been set up across the borough, supporting those who are finding it difficult to afford enough food for themselves or their families.

At these FOOD stores, you are able to pick up food valued at £25-£35 in exchange for a £3.50 membership fee. At the same time, support is provided in other areas that you might need help with. This includes help with issues around

  • housing
  • benefits access
  • employment and more.

To find out more or to become a member email thefoodstore@towerhamlets.gov.uk with your name, address, postcode, date of birth and contact number.

Foodbanks

There are a number of food aid organisations available to help you in Tower Hamlets if you are struggling to get food for yourself or your family. Scroll down to see where your closest branch is located. Different food aid services will offer different support.

Types

  • Open Access – A food bank that anyone can go to for food.
  • Limited Access/referral only – A Food bank that needs someone to refer you into the service. Please contact the organisation for more details.
  • School food provision – A food bank or food aid service that specifically works with students and parents who attend the school.
  • Hot meals service/Hostel – Provides hot meals or pre-made goods to residents.

Underwood Road Foodbank – (Open Access)

Opening times: Thursday and Friday, 9am – 3pm

St Anne’s Catholic Church, E1 5AW

Contact: 020 7247 7833 or email underwoodroad@rcdow.org.uk from Tuesday to Friday (9am – 3pm)

Ensign Youth Club – (Open Access)

Opening times: Friday 10am – 1pm

Wellclose Sq, E1 8HY

Contact: info@ensign.org.uk

Hague Primary School

Opening times: Monday – Friday 8.40am – 3.40pm

Hague primary school, E2 0BP and E1 5RE

For more information please ask at the school office.

Stewart Headlam Primary School

Opening times: Monday – Friday 8.40am – 3.40pm

Tapp St, London, E1 5RE

For more information please ask at the school office.

Wellington Primary School – Food bank (limited access/by referral only)

School food provision (Pupils and families only)

Opening times: Tuesday 2 – 3pm

Wellington Way, Bow, E3 4NE

Contact: admin@wellington.towerhamlets.sch.uk

St Elizabeth Pop Up Kitchen – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: 3.40 – 5pm

St Elizabeth Primary School, entrance on Waterloo Gardens, E2 9JY

For more information please visit St Elizabeth School website / Caritas Twitter page.

Bygrove School – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: Monday – Friday (Term Time Only)

Bygrove street, E14 6DN

For more information please visit the Bygrove School website.

Langdon Park School – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: Monday – Friday 8am – 4pm

Bright Street, London, E14 0RZ

For more information please ask at the school office.

Dorset Community Food Hub – (Open Access – Hot meals service)

Opening times: Thursday

Ground floor, former Dorset library, E2 8QX

For more information please visit the Dorset Community website.

Olga Primary School Foodbank – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: Friday 3.20 – 3.45pm

Olga Primary School, E3 5DN

Contact: 020 8981 7127

Edward Gibbons House – (Hostel)

Opening times: 24 hours

1 Parmiter St, E2 9NG

For more information please visit Providence Row website.

Globe Primary School – (Open Access)

Opening times: Friday 12 – 3.15pm

Globe Primary School, E2 0JH

For more information please visit Globe Primary School website.

Food for Aldgate – (Limited access/by referral only)

Opening times: Friday 1 – 3pm

Tonybee Hall, 28 Commercial Street, London, E1 6AB

Contact: Paul.wilson@eastendhomes.net or Twitter @FoodForAldgate.

Womens Inclusive Team – (Limited access/by referral only)

Opening times: Appointment provided after referral

Mayfield House 202 Cambridge Heath Road, E2 9LJ

Contact: 07415 372 664 or email shakilaa@wit.org.uk.

William Davis Food Bank – School food provision (pupils and families only)

Opening times: Friday 2 – 3pm

William Davis School, E2 6ET

Contact: 020 7739 1511

Bow Food Bank – (Open Access)

Opening times: Monday 8am – 12.30pm

Bromley by Bow Centre, St Leonard’s Street, E3 3BT

For more information please visit the Bow Food Bank website.

Bethnal Green Foodbank – (Open Access)

Opening times: Wednesday 2 – 7pm

Raines Foundations School, Approach road, E2 9LY

For more information please visit Bow Food Bank website.

Bow Muslim Cultural Centre – (Open Access)

Opening times: Friday 11am – 3pm

246 Bow Road London, E3 3AP

Contact: info@bowcentralmosque.co.uk

SACC Food Bank – (Limited access/by referral only)

Opening times: Thursday and Friday 10am – 3pm

St Anne’s Catholic Church, E1 5AW

Contact: braziliancp@rcdow.org.uk or 020 7247 7833.

Referrals can be discussed by email or contact number.


A carers guide to home fire safety

A new video resource has been launched on the London Fire Brigade website to help carers learn how to keep people that receive care safe from fire.

Sadly, around one third of those here who die or are severely injured by fire are in receipt of some form of care or support. If you are a formal (domiciliary care worker, support worker or clinician) or informal carer (family member, friend or neighbour) and are caring for someone in their own home, this new resource will help you identify fire risks and show you what you can do to reduce them. There is also more information available on the website around fire safety and prevention.

Watch the video >


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WALKING ALONE? REMEMBER THESE 10 TIPS

1) Plan Your Route

Make sure you plan your route ahead of time. If you are walking in an area you are not familiar with, this can help keep you from getting lost. You will be able to walk with confidence. If you do get lost, don’t wander aimlessly, find a gas station, supermarket, or fast-food restaurant where you can ask for directions.

2) Make Sure Someone Else Knows Your Plans

Don’t go out when it is dark without telling someone, even if you are just taking the dogs out for a walk around your neighbourhood or walking home from a friend’s house nearby. It may seem paranoid, but in fact, knowing someone knows where you are can be reassuring and help you feel safe. If you fall and hurt yourself or run into trouble, and someone knows where you are, they can send help if you don’t arrive at your destination on time.

3) Always Carry Your Phone with You

Always carry your phone, but not for music or to make social calls as your walk. Your phone can be a lifeline if you see something suspicious or worse if something happens to you. Download a safety app on your phone, so you’ll be able to discreetly alert the authorities if you feel threatened or see something suspicious.

4) Avoid Suspicious People and Areas

Areas that are dark, deserted, or out-of-the-way, such as an alley or a parking lot, can be riskier than a well-lit area full of people. Stick to busy, lighted paths, to minimize the risks. Also, walk mainly in familiar places where you are known. That way, if you feel like a suspicious person is following you, you can always duck into a store you know or knock on a neighbour’s door. Avoid empty streets and pathways with thick shrubbery.

5) Keep Your Hands Free

Except for a flashlight and one of the items discussed below, keep your hands free. If you are carrying anything, put it all in one bag or backpack. This will make it easier for you to react if you notice someone following you. In a dangerous situation, carrying too many bags can keep you from moving as quickly as you can if your hands are free or if you only have one bag.

6) Carry a Non-Violent Deterrent

In addition to a flashlight,  A whistle will help you alert others and call them to aid you if something is wrong. The loud noise may put off attackers, and they’ll move on to find someone else. Mace or pepper spray can give you enough time to evade a potential attacker, and in a pinch, a flashlight can be used as a weapon. Make sure you know how to use the mace or pepper spray to get its full effect.

7) Wear Reflective Clothing to Prevent Accidents

When it comes to personal safety, it’s not just about suspicious people. Areas with low visibility can be prone to accidents. Reflective clothing allows bikers and cars to see you as you walk along. A flashlight or headlight can also help drivers see you if there are dark stretches of road on your route.

8) Take a Self-Defence Class

When fighting off something as an assault, the element of surprise can work in your favour. If you regularly walk alone, take a self-defence class. You don’t have to become a black belt. In fact, it’s probably better to learn something like Krav Maga, which has been popular for self-defence. The idea is to disable your attacker enough for you to get to safety, and a class focused on self-defence will help give you those survival skills.

9) Remove Any Distractions

Keep your phone in your hand in case you need to hit the panic button on your safety app, but don’t let it distract you. When walking alone at night for exercise, music can be motivating and energizing but also distracting. You may not hear someone driving or walking up behind you. Avoid wearing headphones or talking on your phone as you walk.

10) Trust Your Gut

When walking alone at night, trust your gut. If you feel like an area or situation may be dangerous, don’t wait around to find out. Stop and scan your surroundings if you think someone is following you. If you are being followed, walk as quickly as you can to a well-lit public place. You can wait until you feel safe, or call a friend, a taxi, or an Uber to help you get safely get home at night.

Following these personal safety tips will help keep you stay safe when walking alone. Always be aware of where you are and alert to suspicious activity.